Something happened to me,” Padma Lakshmi explained, “that happens to a lot of girls.” Unfortunately, she’s right. And unfortunately, not just girls.On the publication day of her new memoir, “Love, Loss And What We Ate,” the former model, “Top Chef” host and cookbook author sat down with People and Entertainment Weekly’s editorial director Jess Cagle to discuss one aspect of her life that hasn’t before shared: childhood sexual abuse.As Lakshmi reveals in her book, when she was seven, she and her mother and stepfather were living in a two bedroom apartment in Queens, where she would occasionally share her bed with a friend of her stepfather. She now describes the situation as “a state of affairs that, to people like us, who were used to living far too many to an apartment in India, seemed relatively normal.” And she recalls that “One night, I woke up to his hand in my underpants. He took my hand and placed it inside his briefs. I don’t know how many times it happened before, since I suspect I slept through some incidents.” When her mother noticed signs that her daughter was distressed, Padma tells Cagle that “Once you take a girl’s innocence, you can never get it back. What I remember more is telling my mother what happened and her believing me, and then she and I telling someone else and that person not believing me. And then the next week I was sent to India.” It marked the end of her mother’s marriage.
0:00the the new slow I’m gonna talk to you about sex 0:17on to be more precise the sex store 0:21marriage I’m in when I’m done you’ll know three things that you can do 0:26to prevent it from happening in your life so first I like to tell you a story 0:31for the last three decades I’ve been specializing in work with 911 couples 0:37couples who are 0:38truly teetering on the brink of divorce I 0:42resuscitate flatline relationships 0:45I try to teach couples what they need to know to 0:49resolve their differences and fall back in love 0:52it put their kids in bed at night together 0:55it’s not an easy job but I didn’t choose my career 0:59my career chose me you see 1:03I grew up in an incredible family two loving parents who never 1:08law to great brothers a large extended family with whom we spent every weekend 1:14in 1:15all over holidays until one 1:18fateful day I was 16 years old in a senior in high school in my mom called 1:23us all in for a family meeting 1:25and she proceeded to tell us that she’d been miserable for 23 years in her 1:30marriage 1:31and she was getting a divorce from my father no one 1:35saw it coming I told my parents never 1:38fought I remember the feeling of blood rushing for my body thinking 1:44how can this be happening I’m leaving home 1:47in my nest is falling apart and that’s precisely what happened 1:53divorce not only in the marriage 1:56it dissolves family and sadness about the break up with my family still 2:01lingers today 2:03that’s because wars is forever